Monday, October 10, 2005

Intermingling of the sexes II - Ummati blog

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Intermingling of the sexes II

Assalamualaykum readers.

In this post I will be continuing with my previous topic regarding the intermingling of non-mehram men and women that takes place in person as well as on the internet.

I apologise for the lack of clarity in my words. I was specifically targetting the 'chatting' that is taking place in todays age that has become the norm. We no longer consider it to be an evil but instead it seems to be encouraged.

However, there is a type of communication in Islam that is permitted. This is the contact between a non-mehram man and woman who communicate for the sake of Islam. But please note only in extreme cases of necessity. Those whose sole purpose is to gain knowledge for the betterment of their own imaan, as well as the entire ummah.
Truly, this can be seen taking place at the time of the Prophet (saw) and his blessed companions. The Mother of the Believers hazrat Aishah (ra) has related many hadiths to inform the ummah of the blessed ways of our Prophet(saw) These hadiths were asked by the noble companions of the Prophet (saw) upon which hazrat Aisha use to reply behind a screen in the most modest manner. Yes, indeed this is a perfect example that clearly shows such communication is permitted in Islam.

However, I ask you, what has become of us today? We use this very excuse of propagating Islam and instead misuse it to suit our desires. Yes, once in a while an Islamic issue may crop up but other times? Other times, readers we are involved in deep conversations be it MSN or any other way, we are involved in many hours of zina. What is the need in speaking to a non-mehram about personal issues, about petty issues which are simply not necessary.

Ofcorse one may say 'my intentions are pure' truly I do not doubt that for one moment. However, all would agree that Shaytan makes it a duty upon himself to convert these intentions to please him. Muslims are urged 'Believing men and women keep your gazes down' This shows that despite having pure intentions one can easily fall into the trap of shaytan, therefore even the slightest bit of temptation is prohibitted from the start. Before any thing even takes place. Id like to apply this same aspect to internet chatting. Readers do not even go near unnecessary chatting between non-mehrams on the internet for this is the path leading to zina. We are mere mortals, we can not always control our desires, it may begin as an 'islamic issue' but result in zina.

I would like to conclude by saying that yes you may find the views outlined in my entries very extreme. However as is often said 'the truth is bitter' An ill person has to undergo severe treatment and drink bad tasting medicine as a cure. Similarly this post is being put before you regardless of how bitter it sounds. I apologise for anything said that may have caused offence.

Jazakallah for reading



Friday, October 07, 2005

Unjustifiable Contact With the Opposite Gender

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

Insha-Allah, this should be a three part series, where I will be posting two posts from the beneficial blog: The third post will be on the protection of Sisters, how to save oneself from the fitna of the net world.

Without further ado:


Intermingling of the sexes: Post 1 (

I begin in the name of Allah Most Gracious Most Merciful.

The topic in discussion is one that will surely create some controversy amongst the minds of many. Some of you may read the first paragraph and decide you would like to read no further. Others may read the entire post and quietly dismiss what is said. However I place a small request before you: please do ponder upon what is said. Jazakallah.

You may all agree that having a physical relationship with a non-mehram is totally forbidden in Islam. And if one was to trangress these boundaries then punishment would be the inevitable consequence. However, if one was to put it simply then we would agree that any form of communication that is likely to lead to ones carnal desires being aroused, is strictly forbidden. One does not know whether one's desires will be aroused or not- though there is always a possibility, hence such communication is forbidden.

By communication I mean conversations between a non mehram man and a woman in person, or via the phone, even by a mere look and yes, let me utter the deadly words, the most common form of communication amongst non-mehrams is taking place on the internet. It is the most easiest form and sadly it is succeeding beyond measure in corrupting our minds and leading us astray.

(Let me stress, this form of contact I am referring to is one that is kept unnecessarily, there are instances where non-mehrams can communicate, these shall me mentioned later on inshallah)

One specific ploy used by people who want to make an excuse to chat to the opposite sex, is to refer to them as their 'brother' and 'sister.' Does this really convince you that what you are doing is islamically acceptable? Yes, every muslim is a brother and sister to one another, but these so called brothers and sisters of ours are people who we can marry, hence the ruling of it being forbidden.

Neither does the excuse of being 'friends' work because such a thing as friends between a non-mehram man and a woman exist in Islam.

I would like to end by asking, what do we derive from an hours long conversation or even merely keeping in contact with a guy/girl? Yes, it is a form of pass-time, or maybe we think it to be 'fun' and lastly, and most definitely we derive pleasure out of it. I ask you, what is our pleasure in comparison to that of the displeasure of Allah (swt)? What is our comfort in comparison to that of the discomfort and pain of the Blessed Prophet (saw)?

Is it fair, that this very Prophet who experienced such hardhship and pain for the sake of his ummah to remain strong on his/her Imaan, so that Allah may grant his ummah salvation from hell, this very Prophet's teachings are being torn to shreads. Do we feel even the slightest bit of remorse?

In conclusion I would like to say that this post is not directed at a specific individual, but rather to the entire ummah as a whole. I would like to apologize if I may have said anything that has caused any one of you readers to feel offended. This is not my attempt to be judgemental but rather I am placing a genuine concern before you, I pray that this entry creates an awareness of the evils of men and women chatting online. I pray that Allah gives me and all you readers the hidayah to practice upon what has been said.

Jazakallah for reading.



Wassalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

Monday, October 03, 2005

Suggested Timetable for Ramadhan


by Shaykh Muhammed Saleem Dhorat

In order to maximise our time and perform our ‘ibaadat with ease, we should try to follow a set routine or timetable.

1. We must wake up for suhoor as it is a Sunnah of our Rasoolsallallahu alayhi wasallam. He has informed us that the food of suhoor is full of barakah: “Eat suhoor, because in it lie great blessings.” (Bukhaari, Muslim)

We should arrange our time for suhoor in such a way that we are also able to perform at least 4 to 8 rak‘aat of tahajjud together with du‘aa for about 15 minutes or more.

sallallahu alayhi wasallam has said that the du‘aa in the darkness of the night (after tahajjud) is readily accepted by Allah. (Tirmizi)

2. The ideal way to perform tahajjud with suhoor is to wake up early and perform tahajjud and make du‘aa before suhoor. Everyone in the house should wake up and engage in ‘ibaadat in the darkness and isolation of their own rooms. Shed tears and ask Allah ta‘aalaa for your needs just as a small child cries and gets his needs fulfilled. Rasoolullah
sallallahu alayhi wasallam has encouraged his followers to cry when making du‘aa.

Crying and weeping attracts mercy. Just as a mother who, upon seeing her child crying for a sweet, will succumb at the sight of the child’s crying and treat it with mercy, similarly when one sheds tears whilst beseeching his Lord, the Mercy of the Lord will enshroud him.

3. After tahajjud and suhoor, we must pray our Fajr Salaat with congregation. Ladies should also perform their obligatory Salaat.

4. After Fajr remain engaged in ‘ibaadat till15-20 minutes after sunrise and perform 4 rak‘aat ishraaq.

5. Before zawaal, perform Salaatud Dhuhaa (chaasht). Rasoolullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, “There is charity is due to you in lieu of every joint that exists in your body. To say sub’haanallah is a form of charity, to say alhamdulillah is also a charity, to say laa ilaaha illallah is also a charity, to command goodness and forbid evil is also a charity, and two rak‘aat at the time of dhuhaa (chaasht) is sufficient for all this charity (i.e. to compensate the favour of every joint that Allah has given you).” (Muslim)

6. Perform Zuhr with congregation. If possible, engage in ‘ibaadat for a while and have a short rest with the intention of qayloolah – a Sunnah of our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

7. Perform ‘Asr. The time between ‘Asr and Maghrib is very valuable especially for du‘aa. We must make the effort to perform our ‘Asr with congregation and then remain in the masjid until Maghrib. Unfortunately Shaytaan and nafs have deceived us so much that many of us cannot do without food in the masjid at the time of iftaar. My friends, we should try to change our habits and keep the aakhirah in our minds. Shaytaan and nafs will take us home for some food, which should only take a few minutes, and will not let us come to the masjid until just before Maghrib. This is the best part of the day, which we do not value, only because of our desire for food. Rasoolullah sallallahu
alayhi wasallam said, “There are three groups of people whose du‘aa is not rejected; the fasting person until he breaks the fast........” (Ahmad)

When Allah has made a promise through His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, there is no doubt in the acceptance of these supplications. In spite of this, we find some people whose prayers are not answered. This does not mean that their prayers have been rejected. It is Allah’s Favour upon us that should He find that granting us what we ask from Him is in our interest, He grants, otherwise not. Another point to remember is that there are certain conditions in the absence of which they may be rejected. Among these is halaal food and making du‘aa with attention and concentration. If our hearts and minds are not in our du‘aa, then they may not be answered. My friends, we must make the habit of bringing a few dates with us at the time of ‘Asr and after ‘Asr we must engage in zikr, tilaawat, tasbeeh, etc. until just 15-20 minutes before Maghrib when we should raise our hands in du‘aa until Azaan. In this way, everyone will be engrossed in their own ‘ibaadat and we will find that if some of the individuals are crying, others will also get the inclination to do the same. Therefore value this time between ‘Asr and Maghrib and do not waste it in worrying about food. The saintly people are such that not even gold and silver will distract them from the Worship of Allah, let alone food. Their concentration in their du‘aa is not affected even if heaps of treasure were to be placed before them, whereas, we would not be able to concentrate if only a small morsel was to be put in front of us. I would request my sisters not to spend the time between ‘Asr and Maghrib in the kitchen.

8. After performing Maghrib, we shoud perform 6 rak‘aat of awwaabeen after the two rak‘aat sunnat and two rak‘aat nafl of Maghrib. However; those who do not feel inclined to do this, some ‘ulamaa have said that two rak‘aat sunnat and two rak‘aat nafl of Maghrib can also become part of the 6 rak‘aat awwaabeen. Hence, performing only two rak‘aat after the sunnat and nafl of Maghrib will suffice.

9. During the winter months in Britain there is a lot of time between Maghrib and ‘Ishaa. After food, we should sit the household together and read from ‘Virtues of Ramadhaan’ compiled by Shaykhul Hadeeth Maulana Muhammad Zakariyyaa for at least 15 minutes, followed by tilaawat, with all the members of the family joining in. This will create a good atmosphere and environment in our homes and at the same time Ramadhaan will pass joyfully with an abundance of barakah in the home, inshaa’allah.

10. Thereafter return to the masjid and engage yourself in ‘ibaadat. Take great care not to get involved in any worldly talk. It is very upsetting and disheartening to see people wasting their time in futile talk in the masjid even during the month of Ramadhaan. Try and restrain yourself and remain engaged in ‘ibaadat until ‘Ishaa. The sisters should note that 20 rak‘aat taraaweeh is sunnat-e-mu’akkadah for them too. They must perform taraaweeh after ‘Ishaa.

11. After taraaweeh, go straight home. Do not loiter around outside the masjid wasting time. At home, remain in ‘ibaadat until you go to sleep. Sleep with the intention of waking up for tahajjud and suhoor.

12. Apart from the above, we know that in Ramadhaan there are always various programmes taking place in the masjid led by our ‘ulamaa. These are for our own benefit. There are many of us who are very sinful and during this month our hearts are softened and more receptive; by listening to the wise words of our ‘ulamaa the chances of bringing good deeds into practice are greater. Although the month of Ramadhaan is solely
for ‘ibaadat, we should try and attend these programmes in the masaajid because by listening to these discourses, inshaa’allah, changes will come into our lives for the better. Our hearts are blackened by and full of sins and by listening to these discourses and sitting in the company of the ‘ulamaa and the pious, change will definitely occur in our hearts, inshaa’allah.

Allah’s Mercy is in abundance throughout the year, but especially during this month. We should yearn in our hearts for this Mercy because we need mercy, blessing and forgiveness from Allah. We are sinful and in this month we want to win Allah’s Attention so that we can become His Beloved Slaves. If we are eager to perform good deeds then, inshaa’allah this month will become a month of great blessing for us.

NOTE: Everyone should try to take rest in order to conserve energy for the compulsory ‘ibaadat. There is no point in remaining in nafl ‘ibaadat and not getting rest, which will result in tiredness and laziness at the time of compulsory Salaat, etc. Hence, every person should fix a convenient time for rest and include it in the timetable set out above.

May Allah accept our efforts and make every moment of this month a means of receiving His Mercy, Blessing and Forgiveness. May we all be granted a place in Jannah. Aameen.

[Source: Islamic Daw'ah Academy]

Sunday, October 02, 2005

The Path to Perfection

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